Monday, August 9, 2010

Stop Sabatoging Your Success!!!

Stop Sabotaging Your Success

Get past the self-doubt and stop blaming others if you want to reach your goals.


Take a moment to consider this powerful quote by Marcus Aurelius Antonius: "The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts." Not only do I find it to be true, I believe it is the foundational driver of whether you're successful or not.

As a business coach, I see many clients suffering from self-sabotage, yet they are oblivious to it. It's sneaky and comes in many forms, but for the purposes of this article we're going to focus on two of the most common ways people get in the way of their success and happiness. They are:

  1. Not taking responsibility for their actions
  2. Choosing to be in the "victim" role--both personally and professionally

Many people are more comfortable in the "victim role" because they can blame everyone else for whatever is not working in their lives or business. And although placing blame on others for your own issues can be quite seductive (it gets you off the hook as far as doing any introspection), it can be more exhausting than simply being honest with yourself. Most important, the victim mentality can make it virtually impossible to realize significant progress . . . yet totally possible to experience consistent breakdowns in making progress within any aspect of your life.

And, no, I'm not referring to major emotional breakdowns requiring medication or hospitalization. I mean those consistent obstacles that get thrown at us all the time in business and life, and that cause us moments of overwhelming paralysis--typically due to self-doubt.

To effectively break through a personal, professional or emotional obstacle, the driving force behind it is taking responsibility for your actions and trusting yourself. Let's look at both of those drivers more closely:

Responsibility: You gain significant empowerment and freedom when you choose to shift your perspective from assigning blame to accepting responsibility. And although you may feel in control when assigning blame to others for challenges you face, the reality is that you are totally out of control. Why? You have given your power to someone else. And even though it may feel like a "relief" initially, it can manifest into more stress later.

You simply cannot resolve personal issues, and have breakthroughs, when the power is not your own. At the point of assigning blame and releasing all responsibility for challenges in your life, not only have you given all the power to others, your "destiny" becomes based on their next move and decisions--not yours.

Being able to shift your perspective to being someone who takes responsibility starts with self-trust.

Self-Trust: Self-trust is the foundation of our being. Lack of self-trust leads to self-doubt. Doubting yourself is a powerful force that can set you up for failure in anything you attempt. Why? Because you already assume that the decisions you make and actions you take probably aren't the right ones, and that they won't provide you with the results you desire.

Think of this in terms of two real-world scenarios:

  • Scenario One: You want to make a career change because you're bored or very unhappy with your current occupation or business. If you lack self-trust, making a change could be clouded by self-defeating "doubt" questions like: Am I smart enough to do this? Can I afford to do this? What will my friends, family and peers think? What if they judge me for making this career change?

    With those types of questions running through your brain, you can actually talk yourself out of making the career change before you even try. The result is being stuck in a career or running a business you no longer enjoy and wishing you were doing something else--yet never trying to make the change happen.
  • Scenario Two: You don't have enough business and you're struggling. But have you really done the work to get more business, or do find yourself blaming the economy, the competition or other outside forces?

I hear clients complain often about lack of business. And when they tell me what their business development strategies have been prior to hiring me, I don't doubt they've been struggling. Posting a couple of blog posts, sending a few tweets here and there, creating a website, and occasionally going to networking events isn't enough. Yet they truly believe the "problem" is all about the economy or other circumstances, and all they want to do is vent about it vs. take action.

However, after we have some honest dialogue together, a perspective shift occurs. They soon realize they need to take responsibility for their lives and business, and they need to stop blaming others for their lack of success and happiness. They have to come up with an overall business development strategy. It can't be the occasional blog post or the odd networking event. Business development has to be planned and managed.

If you can relate to any of this, I suggest you take some time to ask yourself:

  1. Are there situations in my life where I choose to assign blame vs. take responsibility?
  2. How does assigning blame serve me when I'm trying to break through an obstacle?
  3. How can I build self-trust to foster consistent, positive breakthroughs?
  4. When I feel paralyzed by self-doubt, what can I do to create a breakthrough vs. a breakdown in making progress?

Your personal success and business success depend on you. You can have the best brand platform in the world, a terrific marketing strategy, have written an amazing book, or offer an amazing product or services, but none of these will get you where you want to go if the demons in your head constantly try to sell you garbage . . . and you willingly buy it.

Saturday, August 7, 2010



Ok, Gals, if you haven't already heard of Thirty-One Gifts, I guarantee, you will soon!!! Last year at this time, we only had 6000-7000 Consultants. One year later we have over 15,000!!!! It is one of the fastest growing Direct Sales companies in the United States, however, there are still a ton of states where there are hardly any Consultants at all! I am looking for a handful of women who want to build a large successful direct sales business in a short period of time!!!!

We will have booths at expos and shows across the U.S. starting early this fall and need some new Consultants to not only join us at the shows and help out, but you will also RECEIVE ALL THE LEADS!!!!!!! This is a SERIOUSLY HUGE opportunity to build a Direct Sales Business and NOT have to do it all on your own!!!!!

Our expectations are to help those on our Team grow their business to earn a $5000 a month income within 6-12 months. Some will do that quicker and some might take longer, but it is up to you as to how serious you would like to take this opportunity.

PLEASE....if you are even remotely interested in what Thirty-One Gifts is about, take a moment to call me directly, or visit our website to see why so many people are joining this amazing company!!!!!

Call me direct at 614-656-1555 or visit our site at or our blog at

Thinking About Becoming a Thirty-One Gifts Consultant?

Our Team is building nationwide and there are still many states that do NOT have very many Consultants in them! This is a fabulous opportunity for anyone who wants to really benefit from "being the first" in their area!

Although there is room in EVERY state for more Thirty-One Gifts Consultants, there are many states that are waiting for someone like YOU to join Thirty-One and bring our wonderful company and product line into your local area!

Our Team will be building in many of these open states by attending shows and expos and we are LOOKING FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU TO GIVE THE LEADS TO!!!

Call us directly at 614-656-1555 and let us know you are interested in joining our Team, or go to and sign up directly on the site!

Take a look at our Thirty-One Gifts Map and see for yourself how many Consultants are in your state! Thirty-One Map!

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Thirty-One will be at the Cleveland Women's Show!

We will have a booth at the Cleveland Women's Show in October! We are looking for people interested in becoming a Thirty-One Consultant who would like to attend the show with us and receive the leads from the show! Build a business in one weekend with Thirty-One Gifts!!! Call us at 614-656-1555

Cleveland Women's Show - Mark your calendars now for Oct. 1-3 when the Cleveland Women's Show returns to the I-X Center. Three days of shopping, fashion shows, cooking demos and great fun!

About Thirty-One Gifts & The Business Opportunity

By becoming a Thirty-One Consultant, you have the freedom of owning your own business and the opportunity for unlimited earning potential. But we offer you more than just a career and income. You’ll have the pleasure of working with supportive and encouraging women just like yourself, and through our commitment to providing you with flexible hours, you’ll still be able to devote time to your family and yourself. Whether you are looking for the blessing of meeting new friends, finding new ways to grow personally, or financial rewards like making that house or car payment, open your world to Thirty-One! Here are just some of the wonderful opportunities that await you:

• A faith-based company devoted to supporting and encouraging women
• Personalization is available on most products in a variety of styles and materials
• Online parties with E-Vites and online customer ordering capabilities
• Online customer & consultant referrals
• Unlimited earning potential and financial freedom
• A casual work atmosphere surrounded by friends without any high-pressure sales pitches or demonstrations
• Flexible hours for more time with the special ones in your life
• Personal and professional growth
• Special rewards and discounts
• Partnering and collaborating with an enthusiastic home office staff and other Thirty-One consultants.

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Welcome New Thirty-One Team Members!!!

We want to welcome Michelle Ward from Pennsylvania and Cheryl Corrente from Florida who have just joined our Thirty-One Team! Congrats and we wish you much success!!!!

Monday, August 2, 2010

Everyone Needs A Little Inspiration!

To succeed... You need to find something to hold on to, something to
motivate you, something to inspire you.

Thank You, Thirty-One Gifts for inspiring me!

Beth Graves

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Building Successful People, Building a Successful 31 Team!

As our Team grows, we are specifically searching for a few individuals who understand the potential of not only Direct Sales, but Direct Sales with a company that offers an outstanding compensation and Leadership program, enabling anyone to make a 6 figure income if they so choose.

Thirty-One is that company.....and we are seeking motivated people to join our Team. People who are willing to work directly with us, attend business building calls, online webinars and is willing to do what ever it takes to make their dreams come true!

We are on a journey......and everyone on our Team has a goal that they would like to reach. Working with a team holds you accountable and makes your dreams that much closer to reality.

If you think you qualify to be on this us directly. Interview us! Ask questions and we will give you all the info you need! Then decide for yourself if this is right for you! Just remember, the possibilities are endless.....and together, as a team, we can ALWAYS achieve more!!!!!

Join Us TODAY! Call 614-656-1555 and ask for Beth Graves